” I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way. that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and an end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.” – Gilda Radner
Hi all, how’s it going ? What did you think of the quote ? It’s just one of many I have come across during my Stumble Upon sessions X-D. I was thinking about how to go about writing a new post and what to include, I wanted it to be something everyone could relate to but I didn’t want to sound too preachy about things (please alert me if i do sound like that !). I wasn’t really getting anywhere, until I had a conversation with a certain friend of mine simply put the job situation across the board. Now okay you may be thinking hang on where is this going? You’re going to tell me something that is blatantly apparent, which is… yes it’s pretty abysmal the market for jobs. Don’t worry this issue just serves as the starting point of today’s post.
Our talk began with mutual disdain of the job market. For her little to no luck landing that graduate job. For me being currently unemployed of my own choice to pursue a job with scope to grow and flourish. Rejection has become quite a familiar word as well as the obligatory “I’m sorry unfortunately on this occasion due to the high calibre of candidates, we are unable to progress your application further…..” Rejection emails aside, the deflation of ones confidence levels is a cause for concern, especially when you feel that you gave it your all and then some with little to no indication where you slipped up! For my friend the feeling has clearly been emphasised. This is something she has poured her heart and soul into and yet hasn’t gotten that break (If she does read this,pray for me that she doesn’t kill me …)
My advice was simply be patient and not to give in, who knows what can happen tomorrow, today’s battle is over now onto the next, clichéd phrases that actually have wisdom hidden in them. Her response ? I want to just give it up, I am tired of being positive and pretending like things are going to work out in my life. At first I thought it was just banter but then I sensed the negativity so what do I do when I hear someone being negative?? I get a bit aggro and go off on one :s my exact words ” I don’t see how you are running out of options. I think it’s the waiting that is killing you. You have to remember there are hundreds of graduates in the same boat as you.You’re no different from them. To give up would be to waste your time spent studying. That would be a stupid idea.” This was said in the heat of the moment and yes I did apologise for sounding a bit harsh and the apology was accepted (Lucky me 🙂 ). It’s true though things are difficult for many people.
I’m worried I am rambling on here so I’ll try and get to the core of this post. Don’t give up and don’t give in. I personally have made some rash decisions in the last couple of month, leaving my job was one of them. However for me I wanted to see the bigger picture, I know that times are difficult but I wanted to look for something that would ultimately better me as a person and help me grow. In regards to my friend, she is uber educated as are many others, it’s simply a matter of not if but when will I get my chance to finally shine. I can’t, she can’t and you can’t tell what is around the corner. That uncertainty makes life that bit more exciting, that feeling of having butter flies in your stomach or feeling your heart beat at ungodly speeds. Enjoy it and savour the journey. You wont be the same person that you were when you started walking forward. The experience will etch into your character and through the rain, wind and sunshine you’ll be better for it when you finally see what’s around the corner and fingers crossed meet your goals.
This wasn’t as profound I would have liked it to be but nevertheless this was just an example of the daily struggles we all go through in many areas of our lives. They can chip away at you, keep you up at night and steal the smile away that you once had. Giving in is the easy option, weathering the storm will eventually lead to brighter skies tomorrow. Thanks for reading, hope I didn’t bore you. It’s really hard to put thought into words but hey I shall learn eventually. Have a little think about this “.Be nice,everyone is fighting a hard battle.” P.s you need to do what Spidey does once in a while 😛